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The Mirror ... Looks Back

Every day, every moment, we are given sublime opportunities to glance upon ourselves, thru another’s eyes.   And, many of those glances reflect back the qualities -- or lack thereof in others -- that come shinning back in shocking random combinations.  Most often, the qualities --- or lack thereof, we see in those around us, and they are specifically and directly related to those qualities -- or lack thereof, that we hold true of ourselves within. 

You've heard it sad a million times:  "Like attracts like."   What we must come to realize is that it is one of the most powerful of Universal Spiritual Laws we have with which to craft our personal, professional, emotional, physical and  spiritual lives.   Whether we like it or not .. we will attract individuals into our lives that will mirror back to us, at any given time, a specific version of who we are ... in that moment.  It's a precise snapshot.   That mirrored-reflection is the Gift of spontaneity, and from that spontaneity, is how we will make our choices to respond.

Those we feel compelled to engage with, those we are drawn to like moths to the flames ... are simply our own inner selves ... looking back -- eye ball to eye ball.  It doesn't matter if they irritate us to boiling madness, or please and thrill us  ... they are still of part of ourselves that is speaking very loudly.   As well, we are also acting as a Mirrored reflection to them. 

Thru one another, we can truly see who and what we are.   Most of us are completely repulsed if we experience something ugly, agitating, unsettling, caustic or harsh from another.  We say, "oh, I'm not like that at all."   This is where the deep-lookie see comes in handy because if the response is a biting one, then for sure, there is some deep scrubbing to do.  But, know this:  This is where the lesson is ... it's an opportunity for us to SCRUB our own space.    Because, if we attack, in the name of  'self-defense' we're doing ourselves a major disservice.   We're missing the lesson all together.   And, if we miss it in that moment, you can bet your last quarter, it's going to come about again, and again, and again ... until you grab the lesson.

Those we feel drawn to, reflect our inner self back at at us, and you act as a mirror for them in a simultaneous act.  That 'act' is so instant, if you blink, it's gone.  Simply put, when we look at others, we will likely see what exists within ourselves.  Its right there, ripe for the taking ... in ourselves.  When we glance and look upon our own Divinity, our own sense of Beauty; when we experience the sweetness and light in the Soul of another, we are seeing the goodness that resides deep within our own Souls.   When we see traits in others that provoke emotions and feelings of disgust, agitation, hatred, anger, we are seeing reflected back at us those parts of ourselves that we have disowned or do not like.   So, it's easier to react, to strike back, to 'defend' --- than it is to surrender and say:  "no more of this."    And, we do this inside ourselves ... it's not something we will do for another.  However, the others in our lives begins to feel the shift within our own Hearts, and those agitations become dissolved like Sugar in rain water.

If we want to know more about ourselves,  we only have to look at the people in our lives we've gathered with, and they alone will tell the story of where we are in any given moment.   Who we are can be literally laid bare for us to see by viewing what we ... see in others.  How powerfully simple is it to see all of the mis-giving traits we do not necessarily like in others?  Then, we can ask ourselves:   "It is really that much more difficult to realize that I possess those same traits that I am abhorring ... or adoring ... in another?"

Going a little bit deeper into our own Rabbit Hole, the best and most juicy parts are that more than not ... the morals, values, attitudes, habits, and behaviors of others are deeply and closely linked to our own unresolved and unconscious issues within ourselves.

So, next time we come into contact with someone we admire, wouldn't it be enriching to search ourselves for similarly admirable traits we have in common?

 As well, when we encounter someone who's exhibiting traits that we simply cannot tolerate, traits we vehemently dislike -- in that moment, take a step back and try to accept that we are looking at our reflections.  Even what we may perceive a very 'powerful' person who commands are, for some, intimidating ... they too, are a reflection. 

To say the least, it is a humbling and eye-piercing experience to look at ourselves thru the perceptions of others.    Who knows, we may even cultivate within ourselves a deeper sense of the traits and behaviors that we cherish and hold dear: integrity, deeper sense of values, higher morals, even a greater self-responsibility.

It's worth the effort to be loving and respectful to ourselves, to strive towards attracting individuals that will love and respect us back.  Nurture compassion and empathy and let the goodness we see in others be our mirrors.  Maybe we can all learn to not back down from the challenges in life that take our integrities to task; rather let us learn to use the skills, the tools in our own toolbox --  to polish our own Mirrors.

At the end of the day, lets hope that we don't feel like we've sold ourselves down the river, and given up on what we innately know to be right and true to our personal levels of awareness.   Let us not stand back, back down, nor give up on what our Hearts tell us is true and just.  Rather ... let us grab the lesson and be done with it knowing that what is looking back at us is a very, very good thing.  

As Stuart Wilde has so appropriately stated ...

                                  ... "Life isn't supposed to be a struggle."

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